Do You Want It All in Life? You Probably Already Do
Often, we are put in a position where a life evaluation is needed. It is important to ask ourselves questions to really understand where we want to be in life. A few questions that will come up are, what are you working towards, what do you want from life, and most importantly, what do you consider the perfect life?
I remember constantly being asked, “what do you want to be when you grow up?”.
As I grew older, the question became, “where do you see yourself in 5 – 10 years?”. Technically, it is the same question, just in different contexts. Most people will have very similar answers; a successful career, the perfect home, raising children, maintaining relationships, being able to take care of yourself and feeling the best all the time, being liked by everyone, and no conflicts or stress. In other words, you want it all and then some.
But can you have it all?
Where did the idea come from? Who came up with this vision of the perfect life?
The term, having it all was used to describe a woman’s journey to finding the perfect balance between personal and professional life. Nowadays, women are NOT the only ones affected anymore. Men are equally burdened by it. We simply all want it and work hard to get it. Truth be told, we are all striving to fight for this unrealistic expectation that can ultimately take a toll on your health, relationships, and even your career.
When working toward something so unreal, we begin to operate like robots because we are constantly in the mode to get things accomplished instead of enjoying the small pleasures of life. It is a downward spiral that only leads to your own demise.
Let me explain.
Having it all is considered an aggressive personal goal and looked upon as a demand from society. Aiming toward that goal and with the severe lack of time to do so will only add stress. You begin to only pay attention to the things that are in front of you which can cause horrible mood swings and extreme fatigue. You will affect not just yourself, but everyone around you.
It begins to weigh down on you, your close ones, and most likely your performance at work. You are not capable of being your best self. You want the perfect life, but you are working so hard …